5 Ideas To Help You Turn Envy Into Inspiration

 

To feel envy is natural. We’ve all been there at some point, wishing that we had what someone else has. Envy has many sources; our perfect neighbour, a successful work colleague, the stranger we pass on the street or a flawless influencer. We envy the way they look, the home they live in, their relationships or their lifestyle.

It’s not something we readily admit to, because it’s a very negative feeling. But there are ways to turn envy into a positive experience.

Here are some ideas to help you feel inspired, rather than envious. 

 

1.  Put A Positive Spin On Things

The next time you feel a pang of envy, make a conscious effort to turn your thought on its head and switch to a more positive mindset. Instead of thinking ‘It’s not fair, they’re jetting off on a fancy holiday’, remind yourself of some great holiday experiences you’ve had, or think ‘How lovely, I can’t wait to go on my next trip’. 

 

2.  Let Envy Show You The Way

Don’t waste energy feeling bad that someone else has something you don’t. Recognise your feelings as a sign that you want more out of your own life, and make that the starting point to doing something about it. Often it’s the feelings we crave rather than the material things, so think of ways you can progress your career, enjoy more quality time with loved ones or simply spend more time on self care.

 

3.  Know There’s Enough To Go Around

If someone has something you want, remind yourself that you can have it too. Yes, you will have to work for it, and that may start with self improvement and self belief, but knowing that nothing is out of your reach if you truly believe in yourself - and put in the effort - is truly inspiring.

 

4.  Learn From Others

Be inspired by those you envy instead of resenting their success. Learn from them, do what they do, and think of them as a mentor rather than feeling jealous of their achievements.  Ask them to share tips on how they reached their goals. Most people are happy to share tips on their success and they will tell you about things that didn’t work for them, which may help you avoid some pitfalls along the way.

 

5.  Define Your Own Success

Think about how far you’ve come rather than comparing yourself to others and feeling bad about your perceived failings. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small. This will give you an incentive to keep going. And remember, people tend to hide their insecurities. For example, they may look like they’ve got it all figured out with their big promotion at work, but they may be terrified of the responsibility that comes with it and envious of your position.